Not sure if his is just adding more complexity to the situation or not... since I am fine just cutting a check in this fellas name, but It may not be a bad idea to see if the VFW Foundation, which is the charitable arm of the VFW national organization will do a pass-through for him.
The up side (at the risk of sounding like "whats in it for me") is that donations would then be deductible. My guess is that they would want to take some administrative costs off the top of the donations but I for one would definitely be willing to increase my check if it were to a 501c3 that I could trust.