The connectors most likely got hot from an arc fault, not from overloading. Arc faults occur when the connection between the two connectors is not seated firmly. Then the electricity arcs across the loose connectors and heats up. Arc faults can be parallel (phase to neutral or ground) or serial as is the case with loose connectors. The resultant arcs are extremely hot, but they don't draw enough current to trip the circuit breaker.
New construction in homes require AFCI circuit breakers in most living areas now to reduce house fires due to arc faults. AFCI - Arc Fault Circuit Interrupter.
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