Tom,
How hot is if it feels uncomfortable to put your hand on the packing gland, it's too hot. Done right, it hardly even gets warm. You may be able to back way off on the nuts, get water dripping through, run it hard and then readjust to barely dripping and not hot.
If that doesn't work, you may have to pull it out and start over, probably with new GFO. It should be dripping steadily after 1st installation and for an hour or two while you run it in, then adjust slowly to a few drips per minute, while running, then run it again and watch. Tighten slowly until it almost stops dripping. GFO is tricky stuff in that it seats itself when it is first run and if it's too tight to start, it seats itesle too tight and can't be "uncompacted" successfully.
Good luck,
Doug